Easy Solution for Creating Happiness, Self Worth, Abundance & Full Health!
Dale Sandra Hoover
Copyright © 2011 by Dale Sandra Hoover
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Contents
Some ‘Secrets’ to Creating Joy, Happiness and Self Worth
Manifesting Abundance, 2000-2009
Manifestations also using Somatic (body) Senses = ‘New’ Imagination:
My Awesome Multidimensional Experiences of 2005-2010:
Inter-dimensional Experiences: 2008-2009:
Sharing Information and Feeling Into its Truth
Passions and Purposes (Desired Experiences)
Recent Example of ‘Elementals’ and Angels helping a Human
The True 'Rest of the Story' (so far…)
Living the Easy, Synchronistic Life
Creative Imagination Realm – ‘New Energy’ Merlin Alchemy (BELIEFS)
Sensory Technique to Become More Aware
Creating Your Life from New Perspectives, a Self-Expansion Activity
An Expanded Perspective of Life
Giving Our ‘Power’ Away (our ‘energy’ balance)
Now, with our New Perspectives
Biology Reconnection and Safe Space Technique
Releasing ‘Baggage’ Through Deep Aware Breathing
Homework: ‘Releasing’ Technique
Synchronicity / Sovereign Self / Full Creator
Grand Triumphant Discovery and Release from Victimhood
How I Released Myself From ‘Victimhood’ And Healed
Enthralling, Intriguing and Riveting Books
Fun, Funny, Beautiful and Fascinating Stuff
A Message from the Author
This, my first book, is in and of itself a joyful testament to all I espouse within. If I was a pet, I’d be wagging my tail, purring or chirping! I feel it is truly an amazing, fascinating and wonderful book, and I am so excited to share it with a very wide spectrum of readers. It is a universal truth of timeless wisdom, but with new and refreshing approaches, perspectives and perceptions. Within its pages can be found essential keys to creating new ways of easily shifting ones’ unserving feelings and limited Beingness. A simple route to slowly easing out of the monotony of the ‘Uninspired Ordinary.’ Here one can stretch their mind, shift their perceptions and perspectives, gain new insights and acquire new tools for real living! Prepare to take a journey of discovery into a novel tapestry of a woven mélange of delicious lip-smacking savoring, relishing, meaty, tangy, tart, sweet, acid, spicy, salty, bitter, pungent, and refreshing gusto for a successful self-paced ‘New Perspectives’ direction/progression-unfolding and expansion of one’s own unique but full and robust creative self-expression flavor! A simple opening up to all these potentials that exist, perhaps veiled or unsuspected, within you as the gifted multi-faceted Creator you already are! Yes, Creator with a capital “C!”
“Here's to the crazy ones, the misfits, the rebels, the troublemakers, the round pegs in the square holes... the ones who see things differently -- they're not fond of rules... You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them, but the only thing you can't do is ignore them because they change things... they push the human race forward, and while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius, because the ones who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world, are the ones who do.” -Steve Jobs, US computer engineer & industrialist (1955 - )
Dedication
As befitting my enlightened understanding gleaned from MY life experiences, I firstly dedicate this book to…Me! (Since I, probably more than anyone, required undergoing this process.) I now fully Love and Accept myself, Trust myself, Honor myself and have an Opened Heart. I know Who I Am, and I am Valuable!
Next, I’m expressing my deep Love, thankfulness and total appreciation to the Ultimate Compassion Master, my beloved, cherished and blessed husband, Steve: Dearest, without your continuous and unending embodiment of allowing-accepting-honoring-Heart-Compassion, unswerving support, supreme Living Example/Standard, total balance, power of simplicity, superlative Safe Space creations, always “lit” spirit, delicious sense of humor, and total service and dedication to the fulfillment of our ”Life Contract,“ I don’t believe I ever would have been able to persevere beyond a limited survival-level life of creating drama (so I could “fix” it/me and in THAT way feel valuable)! Instead, you honored me with an unending fore-giveness (“pre” forgiveness), total acceptance and total allowing space I so needed to be able to unfold and expand into the remembrance of joy, happiness and self worth I felt so utterly lacking.
Sweetie, as a sovereign leader-Master, you are like a tuning fork that holds a higher vibration for others of us to attune to! You are the truest of teachers,---that of simply embodying the pure essence of Heart-Compassion in your very Beingness, and in which you do move and inspire so many of us! In you is the built-in humility and desire to serve that seem to be natural out-pourings of the True Treasure of your Being,---life-giving and life-sustaining Compassion-Love,---that comes from your every breath and every cell, even when in your golden silence. From the fullness of my heart-soul-spirit, I thank you so very, very much for your living-breathing Mentor-Beauty/Grace that rarely fails to inspire me to quicken my vibration-enhancement and expansion. You are truly a Beacon of Light for us slightly aware Ones to flutter around for awhile longer yet;---helping show the way to bridge between Old and New ways of Being! And thank you also for continuing to share this, our amazing Life Journey, with me.
And thank you so very much for all your many hours of “geek” technical assistance and suggestions during the preparation of this book: without your willing and able help, it would not have come to be! Big sweet hugs! I love you so very dearly and cherish All That You Are! I can’t find the powerful enough words to convey to you how very, very much I appreciate you,---always have and always will! Thank you, thank you, thank you times ten to the gazillionth power! (AND for being so ‘flame retardant/fire proof!’) ((*v*))
Next, I desire to express my whole-hearted appreciation for all those Dear Ones who found and founded the ‘Crimson Circle’ and stepped into their ‘Contracts with Life’ and fulfilled themselves, and also to all the other Kindred Spirits here on Earth and off world who likewise are fulfilling themselves and their chosen roles. Thank you all so very, very much for your grand service in Mastery!
And lastly but importantly, I dedicate this book to all who go through life struggling because of not knowing who they are, how they really feel, nor what they want, exhausted in spirit, but who feel sure “this ain’t it,” and that there has to be more, and even fulfillment. For these are the awakening ones I gift my experiences and understandings, in hopes of planting a seed of recognition or actual remembrance of their own true birthright of value, worth, natural inborn-dwelling joy and happiness!
Greetings and Welcome!
The “Some 'Secrets' to Creating Joy, Happiness and Self Worth” pages are what I wrote when I learned how to create my own inner peace, harmony, self worth, “lit” spirit and abundance (= joy and happiness). The reader would benefit by reading the material in sequence, beginning with those pages first to make fuller sense of the “Manifesting Abundance” and other pages, and is what the book title promises. The “Manifesting Abundance” pages are a rather 'magical' saga of a time of my created abundant and marvelous delights, desires, adventures, surprises, awe, wonderment, amazement, precognition, ‘magical’ synchronicities, encounters with expanded reality, enthusiasm and excitement (= HAPPINESS!). Abundance is not always material possessions, but the 'richness' of feelings (happiness!) and experiences!
The documentation shows ‘where’ I was able to ‘go’ after consciously opening up my heart and sense feelings, starting back in the year 2000, by putting myself in an active, deliberate fairly continuous sincere heartfelt verbally expressive heart-state,---because I realized my negative/pessimistic state-of-being and limiting habits and patterns that I had somehow unconsciously created (my persona, plus the fibromyalgia dis-order/dis-ease), was a depression,---which was a victimhood state of being (“I can‘t help it“). I had become contracted into a serious, pessimistic, reactive, controlling, demanding, resistant whiner/complainer,---existing at the very limited ‘survival’ consciousness level,---my spirit was that of a pessimist,---and I needed to choose to turn this around for myself! This was my ‘dark,’---which I found is simply where love (= compassion = total self-forgiveness, allowing, accepting, honoring) is not activated. This drama was not serving me any longer,---I was not actively choosing to embrace life! All of life! Especially all of MY life!
I finally came to the realization no one outside of ourself can ‘make’ us truly or lastingly happy, because as I’ve learned, we create our own reality,---either actively (positively or undesirably), or passively (and usually unconsciously!) with going into the ‘default mode’ of being on ‘automatic pilot’ with whatever is going around from other peoples’ choices, intent and agendas, illusions, untruths, creations, etc., if we’re not actively consciously creating by always choosing for ourself. I needed to become self-empowered after ‘giving my power away’ to two husbands by expecting them to create a life for me and to make me happy! Wasn’t ever gonna happen!
So, learning to consciously, purposefully, deliberately choose for myself has not only contributed to my self-worth, happiness and peaceful contentment, but grown myself into a ‘state’ of a fearless ‘safe space life.’ I realized that every thing/every event, circumstance, condition or person that comes into my life does so because of whatever attracting 'energies' (‘vibes’) I’m sending out (“we get what we give”), and my positive and safe life unfolds when I keep my heart open by maintaining my focus/attention on active expressions of inviting, welcoming, acceptance, allowing, honoring, enthusiasm, appreciation, and thankfulness, etc. –-our ‘harmonic innerprizes!’ Life is simple (perhaps not always easy, but I found we can shift that, too)!
And, as long as I can be consciously aware (one passion in my life) of what I’m ‘giving out,’ and choose to maintain my own self-loving (= self-valuing) personal ‘safe space,’ I won’t (and don’t) attract ‘unsafe’ people, events or circumstances (including illness, dis-orders, dis-eases or ‘accidents’ or undesired challenges/problems/troubles) into my personal life, and I am free of fear in this self-empowered safe way! My goodness returns only ‘like’ back to me, as ‘like‘ attracts ‘like!’ Un-patterning via New Perspectives that now serve the expanded me. This is ‘tapping into’ a certain level of consciousness and maintaining it with our personal over-all ‘vibes’/ESSENCE that automatically brings back/CREATES the over-all ESSENCE/flavor of our ‘What Is’ life. (This occurs eventually with any level/type of consciousness one taps into and maintains,--brutality, slavery, kindness, excitement, etc. We PRE-PAVE our incoming personal reality road/life experience with the ‘vibes’ we maintain on an on-going basis.)
I found conscious deep breathing from time to time through-out each day/evening is a huge key to create and maintain our active awake-awareness and activate our creative and vital Life Force Energy (‘light’ our spirit/Authentic Self), and a way of continually choosing to live,---a real must!
The Darwinian belief/theory that life and evolution is based on the survival of the fittest via competition and a struggle for existence is incorrect: evolution at its deepest core level is really and actually truly based on cooperation/co-creation. The 2-D,---2nd dimensional, ‘predator/prey’ scenario is but a ‘dance’ of cooperation between the species for example, and it's truly merely a limited 3-D human emotional-drama-misperception of it as being otherwise, and causes us to be fearful. And nature doesn’t function all by itself either, as the very real nature spirit Beings termed ‘Elementals’ are embodied within all of it.
Souled human ‘animals’ are a coherent ‘thing’ called 'humanity,' where we evolved to live as an harmonious community/social society. Human life is more than a series of accidents, random events or ‘survival-level’ living. And it is just pure dogma (‘mythperceptions’) that our genes control our health,---our thoughts and emotions are what switch on or off our genes! We are in control of ourselves and create our own reality, whether consciously or unconsciously!
So these writings can help us evolve beyond the limited and limiting power-control-demand-sensation-material-competitive survival mode, and help unfold us back into the remembrance of our natural, native multi-dimensional Beingness that we were before we 'descended' into this 3rd dimensional Earth-world of duality/polarity cause-and-effect. Back into self-awakened, total self-empowerment/sovereignty: in order to continue creating within the human form, but now unlimitedly and in a happy state! Human consciousness has ripened/matured and no longer needs to be based on the vibration of opposing charges,---negative and positive ‘energies’ of opposing or colliding ‘energies’ (control, power and duality/polarity), as it no longer serves us. It's now simply all about sharing what we feel we have to offer.
Humans require creativity-excitement (adventuring, discovering, exploring, expanding, expressing and experiencing contrasts,---even if only from our ‘armchair’ if we are aged, as in simply opening a bunch of our spice/seasoning bottles and concentrating smelling their contrasting aromas, eating with chopsticks, experiencing other cultures’ music, food, fabric, art, etc., anything out of our normal, ordinary choices, or ‘playing’ attentively with any other of our senses,---to which we don’t normally deeply pay attention). And if enough stimulation is not consciously chosen, our body-partner and/or our life will go into drama (= excitement!) to satisfy these needs! Pain, illness, depression, psychosis, neurosis, financial or relationship meltdown, hardship, lack, loss, undesired challenges, difficulties, troubles, problems, etc. = drama, ‘needed’ to make us feel alive! This being in drama is also a seductive ‘feeding energy’ distraction we've allowed ourselves to (unconsciously?) fall into, and is what keeps us from being the conscious, deliberate chooser-creators of our desired reality: our passions/delightings. The need is to take different actions to step out of inertia and our spiritless ‘comfort zone’ to create continual change (boredom and inertia kill first our spirit, then us!). This is about our spirit,---and keeping its sparkplug "lit" from within permanently by ourself, without needing or expecting anything/anyone outside ourself to do this for us, as they are all just temporary! This is self-empowerment. Trusting Self. Rebalancing. Healing. Maturing.
I feel each lifetime was an episode of an adventure-discovery experience (and not the be-all or end-all of it all) of failures, survival, successes, journeying, experimentation, learning lessons and creativity, but now is concerned with awakening our full consciousness and unfolding back into our fuller grandness, as the ‘Game’ of living in constricted/limited 3rd dimensional density of duality/polarity (= ‘illusion construct’ veil of non-remembrance of Who We Really Are) is now ending! And we can choose to give ourself permission to lighten up and not feel so serious! And this ‘magical’ adventure-journeying experience documentation of mine is my small contribution toward this awakening endeavor. Enjoy the possibilities and potentials!
Some ‘Secrets’ to Creating Joy, Happiness and Self Worth
I'm just so excited about having discovered in 2000-2001 some ‘secrets’ to being happy and joy-filled most of the time, I've just got to share them! My dear optimist husband Steve gave me the inspiration for them, but I created them as I went along. Again, up until then, I'd not been a positive or joyful person, but serious, pessimistic and a complainer (which is actually a type of depression, which in turn is a victimhood stance), so these brief techniques I'm sharing have been a turning point for me and my life, and perhaps can be for you. And they are so easy, and also help me stay in the conscious now present moment (not living in or worrying about the past or future). There is only now. So,---
Consciously choosing and giving ourself permission to be in a continuous sincere heartfelt verbally-expressing inviting, welcoming, appreciative, thankful, praising, admiring, excited, enthused, enjoyment-expressing-feelings heart state is one huge key to being joyfully happy. “What we call the secret of happiness is no more a secret than our willingness to choose life,” -Leo Buscaglia. I’ve learned that if I don’t like what or who I am or what I have, already,---exactly the way I am, or things are, I cannot bring in/attract what I truly desire, and therefore I am not actually choosing life! “He who is not contented with what he has, would not be contented with what he would like to have,“ – Socrates. We simply must unconditionally love ourself (= 100% accepting, allowing, honoring and forgiving absolutely everything about ourself), but if we are not doing this, we can begin that by employing these ‘Secrets.’
I found I had to ask myself the very hard question, “do I want to live?” Not as a question anymore of just not terminating my life (that I’d ‘played’ with when severely, suicidally, depressed), but now, “am I ready to live, REALLY live, or am I just willing to survive, to get along with just enough of whatever to simply get by? Can I really move myself out of that survival level existence and get into REALLY living, enjoying, laughing and feeling?” I’ve noticed a lot of people, like I was, are not actively choosing to really live life, but are merely more or less just existing! ‘Living’ lives of perhaps not-so-quiet desperation. There may be some sort of dissatisfaction with their life or with themselves, and perhaps some sort of entitlement feeling, which creates feelings of lack/’what’s missing,’ felt at our core essence (our spirit). And this cannot be satisfied or fulfilled by mere ‘Pleasure Center’ flagellations/distractions, because we’re creators, and when not making conscious choices for ourself, creating our life from our chosen passions, we get stuck (paralyzed?) in a comfort zone (or in complacency after achieving a goal), from not continually making new choices or even maybe taking some risks,---exhilarating risks. Branching out into new directions,---challenging and therefore expanding ourselves!
So, to accomplish this conscious choosing of actively living happily, a technique I used is: when alone, to frequently speak praisingly out loud (there's a whole lot more effectiveness/Life Force Energy in the spoken word) using expressive enthusiasm, lively interest/noticing/focusing attention on, and speaking appreciative words to everything (non-persons at first, as they have no judgments and don’t talk back, and we can feel completely relaxed and safe with them), and especially to ourself, and especially our food; to the Earth/Gaia, the sun, moon, plants, grass, trees, shrubs, cats, dogs, birds, money, nutrients, beauty, harmony, pleasures, floors, doors, clouds, the sky, air, soil, rain, breezes, music, appliances, electronics, the house/apartment, the toilet, toilet paper, bed, utensils, the car/truck/cycle, a/c-heat pump, electricity, hot/cold running water, the toothbrush and toothpaste, shoes, clothes, chairs, couches, tables, lamps, computer, clocks---just everything---as everything has consciousness and is affected by our consciousness, as quantum physicists have proven!
This is about our spirit,---which is not a mystery. Our spirit is our authentic core essence, which we have the ability to shift through simple choice. We can choose to be in an 'up/high' spirit (open, expanded, positive, upbeat, optimistic, forward-looking/forward moving, progressive, proactive, embracing, etc.), a 'neutral' spirit (non-moving, unactivated potential, unlively, barely existing, inert), or a 'down/low' spirit (contracted/closed, negative, downbeat, past-focused, forward-fearing, regressive, pessimistic, reluctant, reactive, resistant, rejecting, depressed, etc.). Raising our spirits, here!
There's a wonderful, beautiful, highly recommended, popular crystal-water photo book, "Messages From Water" by Masaru Emoto (hopefully in libraries) who proved different waters from all over the world had conscious changes in their waters' crystals toward breathtaking beauty when spoken to kindly, compared to the unattractive, misshapen water crystals the water created when spoken to harshly. (And remember, we are made of 70% water!) Our consciousness affects everything and everyone, especially ourself, as our very thoughts, emotions, attitudes, beliefs, behaviors and actions automatically bring back/ATTRACT to us and into our lives the ESSENCE of them--not an exact duplication or replica--that’s why it’s hard to recognize, but it’s always the same ‘vibe’-level essence! We create our own (happy/sad?) reality IN THIS WAY. And I found when we are in resistance to the ‘What Is’ of our life (WE’VE created), by remaining in the contracted, limiting ‘energies’ of the control-power-sensation rather primitive survival mode, we get ‘stuck’ from moving forward with creations we’d truly desire.
We appropriately FEEL things in our emotional ‘body,’ but then we allow our MINDS (mental ‘body’) to interpret our feelings, and usually from perspectives of our survival-mode conditioned programming, opinions and assumptions, belief systems, societal/cultural overlays, patterns, habits, etc., which may no longer serve us, and thus this is then ultimately ‘felt’ in our physical body, manifested and masquerading as dis-orders/dis-ease/’accidents’ (all = drama) etc.,---but which is simply our body-partners’ gift to ourself to help us wake up and become aware that we may not be creating our lives in the ways that serve us/our passions or desires optimally.
So we’ve been giving our empowerment away to our linear-dimensional mind/thinking/analyzing/judging ‘body’ which is non-creative and so cements us in limitations of fear, drama, shame, guilt, blame and non-self-trust, etc. Our mind is like a pre-programmed hard drive, actually very limited, but we’re so much more than that! Our intuitive and gnost (knowing) nature is a quantum leap ahead of our mind. In each of our moments we have an opportunity to expand into the greater reality (where no limits to how intelligence may manifest) outside our limited mind realm (of illusion). Being continuously in thought holds us in the illusion, whereas non-thinking, inner quietude/stillness presents the way out. Peaceful thoughts are still thoughts, still maintaining the illusion. Thought can only encompass knowledge from the past. Thus it’s time to get back into our feeling ‘body,’ our spirit-heart/soul space of 100% unconditional Love ( = 100% forgiveness and allowing-accepting-honoring absolutely everything about ourself and everyone/everything, as all is in Perfection in this rather contracted/limited 3rd dimension)! Unconditioned consciousness is from making our own conscious choices and taking responsibility to align our inner life with our outer life.
There is also a book that was published in the 1970's named, "The Secret Life of Plants" by Bird and Tompkins, that tells of experiments of harsh words or harsh music actively directed toward plants and that their growth was very retarded, misshapen, or they died, and of plants maintained in the same environment but exposed to beautiful melodic music or expressed positive words, and they thrived and flourished. (For many decades quantum physicists have proven consciousness resides in seemingly ‘inanimate’ objects such as rocks, at the quantum level,---waves turning into particles and vice versa when exposed to human consciousness. So this is not new ‘news.’)
We can say heartfelt things out loud and sweetly/gently to everything and to ourself, like for instance: "I welcome you into my life; I sure do appreciate you/me for being here and being so reliable/sturdy/loyal/serving/nice/beautiful-looking-acting, etc. 'You' are so welcome in my life; I just love 'you'/me for being here; I wish 'you'/me the highest wellbeing; I am/ 'you' are so wonderful and I admire me/you; I honor, bless and cherish me/you; I hope you're healthy and happy! 'You' make my life so much more enjoyable and easy/efficient; I appreciate me/you so very much; I thank me/you so very much for.....whatever"......use your own sincere heartfelt creative feeling words, and thoughts of thankfulness and appreciation with enthusiastic good feelings and smiles along with them. Or we can say these things silently whenever someone is around and we're too shy about saying them aloud in front of them.
The important key is EXPRESSING our positive feelings. If we have to, we can just act AS IF we feel these at first, as I had to, with the only thing I did feel: sincerity. (Just fake it, ---but not the sincerity part if you at first don't have these feelings. But we are ‘enough’ at whatever ‘level’ we are ‘residing’ in.) In the beginning, try to do this most of the time that you can. Repetition, practice and persistence will pay off quickly! Just let it gently purr/flow out, no forcing or pushing. This is welcoming back in the feminine (yes, guys!) nurturing energies of caring, gentleness, giving, calmness, sweetness, intuition, peace and harmony, composure, sensitivity, awake/alert attention, thankfulness, praising, noticing, appreciation, uniting, receiving and giving love and compassion that have been missing for so many millennia!
I daily took some specific time and went outdoors around the house and praised and appreciated out loud with my conscious attention directed to plants, grass, shrubs, fences, vines, trees, lizards, birds, lanai, squirrels, sun, breeze, clouds, sky, our house, roof, walkways, driveway, vehicles, etc., anything I could see, using my outpouring of a thankful heart and generosity of spirit (which just came to me while I was busy appreciating!). We tap into our goodness in this way,---goodness that each and every human possesses somewhere within. Things flourished, and so did I!
I also did it to all sorts of things indoors a lot of the time also at first, and especially to myself. We really must grow/expand to love, forgive, accept, allow, honor, respect, appreciate and even nurture and cherish ourself. We have to do this for ourself. We can give permission to ourself to love ourself,---unconditionally and with total forgiveness and allowing for everything! (Everything,---even our current or past difficulties, troubles, undesired challenges and feelings, pains, hurts and wounds!) Everything is/was appropriate at the time for our consciousness growth, as life is for experiencing, maybe learning some lessons and for enjoying, but not for being perfect! All of us did what we did, felt or thought based on the degree of awareness and limited information we had at the time. So knowing this, we can now give ourself permission to just let go of any guilt feelings, shame, self-disappointment, self discontentment or outright self-hate and loathing by simply slowly breathing deeply and saying out loud, "I now release these negative feelings and beliefs about myself" on the out-breath, for some time. Often for awhile, until we really feel it is so. It can be that simple. Life no longer needs to be a painful or guilty struggle. Do this conscious deep breathing exercise on many occasions, until you really and truly believe yourself, and feel you have truly released these negative feelings about yourself once and for all.
We can also deep-breathe-release our now unnecessary difficulties, troubles, undesirable challenges, pains, hurts, wounds and disorders, if we are willing and ready to give them up! In this way, we don't feel we always want to run away from ourself and our persistent negative internal mind-talk, by constantly trying to drown it out by the many distraction-diversions of listening to other peoples' stories, others’ music, watching t.v., being on the internet, playing video games or other electronics, reading novels, or constantly chatting on the phone, etc., when we could use the time to make peace within ourself by placing our active, aware attention on expressing buoyant, enthusiastic appreciation for ourself and everything around us and in our lives, actively creating joy and happiness for ourself through our newly-gained heartfelt feelings. Actively creating our lives. Radiating! (Peace needs to be FELT!)
I know cultures/societies teach doing for others and not for ourself-or-else we'd be seen as selfish, but we just burn out trying to be this way, don't genuinely, honestly really feel like it (so can’t really be authentic), and end up being useless to others and to ourselves. It just does not work that way. But if we love ourself first and take care of ourself first, then we free ourself up to go and ‘be’ and ‘do’ for others if we so choose (but being careful just to share ourself and not give ourself/our empowerment away).
BEING AUTHENTIC
When one has not put self first,
But sometimes instead has self-cursed,
One is likely to feel stuck
Deeply within societal muck,
That does not teach that self love
Must always come first, because
Without this true value of us,
We can’t authentically love others, so trust
This message is the genuine stuff!
We may have been judged severely or critically, or been treated harshly, so we learned to judge ourself and maybe others, and all this together may have us hypnotized into feeling undeserving, valueless, lacking in self-worth and leaving us in low spirits. But we can ‘gift’ ourselves with our own self-compassion and self-love (= full self-forgiveness, full self-acceptance, full self-allowing and full self-honoring), first, and only in this way can we truly know genuine compassion for others. Hug yourself often and mean it!
SELF FIRST!
With all our fears we need to deal
So we might really live and heal.
To do this we each need truly feel
Our own value and worthiness is very real.
To accomplish self-forgiveness
Is really the best
Way to embrace Self with a big ‘YES!’
Next is to realize another fear
Of taking responsibility for our own life, my dear:
Not to give our own truth and power away,
To someone else to fiddle with and play!
To choose to own our whole life each minute
As ours alone, and decide how to spend it.
We create our reality through our thoughts & beliefs,
So if we don’t like it, choose again to please
Only ourself, as this is most appropriate for our needs.
We require learning how to fulfill ourself first,
Or else we can only give out our worst
Or at least not our highest or purest.
In this heartfelt and appreciative way, we can get out of the box we're in and expand ourself into the happiness zone and stay there most of the time, versus remaining in painful, chaotic human drama. We can open our hearts ourselves with these easy techniques, or perhaps have it opened for us by being involved in, or observing, a ‘tragedy,’ like so much of the worlds' peoples have been choosing (at some level of their Being) to experience and to struggle and be challenged with, in order to help open their and our hearts. With these grand (painful? scary?) dramas and traumas (the many and varied Earth changes; political, religious, educational, judicial, corporate, economic, job/career, relationship, health and personal upheavals, etc.), instantly the One Heart reunites. Which way shall we choose? This is nurturing ourself, the most important person in our life! We can choose to give ourself permission to take time for ourself,---time to make ourself happy: priority #1! We can harness our positive feelings, which reins in the unruly ones naturally and without force or pushing/struggling with this technique, and choose to steer them into an alignment that serves us by cultivating our highest joyful creations. Just remember to consciously choose to substitute positivity for negativity. Consciously choosing is creating!
And consciously deep-breathe the Life Force Energy, ‘chi,’ which is the signal/feed-back-loop/reciprocative ‘Energy’ of Aliveness and Wellbeing,—our birthright! Signaling that Yes!--we do choose to live, REALLY LIVE!
At times, when we have negative self-focus or a negative internal dialogue (head-talk/mind spam), we can catch ourselves by trying to always consciously observe/notice ourself (but not berate ourselves—no judgments), and quickly and simply choose to substitute expressive positivity. In the beginning I said out loud, "Yes! to Me!" from time to time (“Yes to Life!” was another one, but we needn’t get stuck in affirmations). We just need to pay attention a lot of the time to our feelings, moods, thoughts, attitudes and behavior (= our spirit!), as this helps us stay in the here and now present moment which is where and how we live, and we can remain consciously aware of what and how we’re creating. Early on, I actually put a little rubber band on a finger to help awaken my awareness. I’d sometimes move it to other fingers whenever I fell into ignoring the band. When going out, I’d put something unusual on,--like a bracelet (which I never really wear) as a reminder that I wanted to keep my attention awake to my feelings.
It may seem strange, but remember we also need to choose to live! (If we do indeed choose that.) We do need to affirm to the universal consciousness-life-stream ‘energies’ (-The ‘Field’/‘Grid’/’Hologram’/‘Matrix,’ or Life Force Energies that we're all linked up with) that we're consciously choosing to really live and have chosen to embrace ALL of life without judgment (including all the frustrating, annoying, irritating and bothersome unpleasantries,---and even all the outer world seeming-chaos and drama/trauma)! All of Life! And all of our Life—just the way it is! This is important for us to consciously choose, as not to could keep us in the default mode of just existing, having a 'Near-Life Experience' and having 'just enough,' dwindling/spiraling further into even more contracted and limiting entropy and therefore not really being able to live to our fullest potentials. I said, "I choose life!"---every once in awhile, and deeply breathed it in a few times---breathing life in, and accepting it all.
This appreciative ‘giving-out’ mode works well also on children, the elderly and other loved ones, to frequently spontaneously praise/touch/hug/kiss them (appropriately) just on the spur-of-the-moment---for no reason at all. Helps build their self-worth, too, as no one needs a reason to be loved! Also maybe even briefly reach out and touch a friend, dear one or acquaintance on the arm or shoulder while chatting (you guys, too)! All this keeps our attention off self, and our joy flowing! Appreciative ‘giving-outness’ within our intimate relationships can be like ‘making love’ all the time, not simply purely erotic-focused,---where one perhaps only feeds at the smorgasbord of lust for gratification: a *taking* ‘energy,’---but instead, an expanded, *giving* ‘energy’ expressed outwardly in one continuous ‘foreplay’-romance with our partners and with all of life, most of the time! (There is of course always room for both romance and erotic lust going together that is mutually desired by both partners, so don’t misinterpret here.)
Why this Works
Now, the reason this makes us happy, uplifted, enthusiastic and joyful is because being in a CONSCIOUS giving-out mode of appreciation and acceptance-allowing-honoring a whole lot of the time opens up our HEART/SPIRIT,---and this is where our joy is! Otherwise our hearts are closed or just in ‘neutral’ and we're not being real happy or joyful, and beings/things around us are not ‘catching’ our joy and returning it to us, either! And again, it's a feed-back-loop,---like the wise old sayings, "you get what you give," “what goes around comes around,” or “you reap what you sow.” As we are electro-magnet Beings, the ‘flavor’ or ‘vibe’-essence of what we send out/radiate (to anything/anyone) literally comes back to us in some way, and in this way we are the author/creator of our own life (either consciously or unconsciously,---and positively or negatively)! We create our own goodness, pleasure and abundance (sustenance of all kinds),---or the opposite!
We are continuously ‘sending out,’ emanating/radiating our ‘vibes’/essence (whether or not we realize it), so it best serves us to actively deliberately and consciously choose what we ‘send out!’ What we (consciously or unconsciously) put our focused attention on grows stronger! The more we maintain ’giving out’ enthusiastic appreciation, thankfulness, praise and allowing-accepting-honoring, the more we receive (joy and self worth) and make ourselves happy: as no one outside of ourself can ‘make’ us lastingly happy because again, we create our own reality,---either actively (positively or negatively), or passively (unconsciously) with going into the ‘default mode’ of being on ‘automatic pilot’ with whatever is going around from other peoples' choices, intent and agendas, illusions, untruths, misperceptions, limited perspectives, etc., if we're not actively consciously creating by deliberately choosing for ourself.
We're now waking up and becoming aware of our effects on self and all around us. And so we become self-empowered! We can realize that everything,---every event, circumstance, condition or person that comes into our life does so because we are literally bringing/attracting them in by whatever ‘energies’ we are sending out. They are all our gift to ourself, to prove to us how we do create our own reality! We are powerful creators! So, we can't blame anything/anyone! We become aware we are Creative Beings! And with this awareness, we raise our self worth feelings (because of what WE can accomplish/create,---all by ourself without any outside help)! Waking up to realizing and recognizing (remembering) our intrinsic creative abilities (through our conscious, deliberate choosings) are a natural outcome, and nothing of which to be afraid.
Also, when we fully consciously choose for ourself, we can feel totally safe in every moment, knowing our own joyful heartfelt choices automatically create our own safe self and safe life of similar ‘energies.’ It is our choices of our HEARTS’ DESIRES (not wants or needs) that make us safe,---not choices out of fear or for other lesser reasons. Conscious choices are not coming from a reactive, desperate, begging or lack ‘feeling place’ (all victim ‘energy’), but more of a surrender to our gentle accepting, nurturing and honoring Heart.
Whenever we allow anyone/anything to ‘bum us out’ or ‘push our buttons’ is also when we give our power away and is a good time to practice being conscious and catch ourselves feeling that way and immediately ‘shift gears’ to taking our negative attention off ourself (and stopping the inFernal internal dialogue--talk inside our head--‘mind-spam’) and putting our conscious attention on something outside ourselves and start appreciating and accepting that something. This will instantly open our hearts again and our joy and positive sense of humor can come back out to play!
We are not victims of circumstances, events or of other people! We can take this responsibility for our own happiness! Even at a small frustration, for instance of stubbing a toe and having it hurt like heck and wanting to be a little angry and swear at the thing we stubbed our toe on, can be an opportunity-gift to ‘catch’ ourself (as we are trying to go around being consciously aware) and pause and ‘reverse gears’ and actually bless or praise and admire that thing and the toe for their actual worth, goodness, reliability, sturdiness, service, etc.,--- and maybe even graciously apologize to both the toe and the thing we stubbed it on! Keeping our positive outflow going. This keeps our heart open,---allowing our joy to remain intact and flowing! This is for our benefit to keep our spirit “lit!” And it especially takes our attention and self-focus off any negative health or drama/trauma situation, fears, depressing thoughts, anger, pain, hurt or other kind of difficulty or challenge that can't immediately be uncreated (which you can learn about in further pages. Giving ourself permission to totally [and lovingly with our blessings] release things,---just give them up and let them go,---while slowly and deeply breathing and fully trusting in ourself, helps uncreate them).
This 'giving-out' technique is also a very good way to build (create) true self worth (another big joy), which is lacking in nearly everyone, whether it can be perceived or not. Loving ourself and feeling good about ourself is allowing ourself to feel the greatest self-acceptance, self-forgiveness, honor and dignity to be all that we already are. It is placing ourself first through value, not through selfishness. Self-love is taking care of ourself first (as no one else will: self-love is our responsibility to take up where our parents left off, or even lacked). It is part of our healthy self-worth/self-esteem and confidence, and therefore not selfish. We cannot genuinely love others and be authentic without true self-love and self value first. It just isn't possible. We are the most important person in our life! Whenever we put in our life that which is less than keeping us happy, it is because we do not value who we are. We only value what others outside of us think of us, --- and therefore we give our own empowerment away in this manner. And again, no one or thing outside ourself can make us lastingly, truly happy. We must do this for ourself! (And leave others to do it for themself--or not--it’s their choice, thereby honoring, accepting and allowing their chosen life’s journey.)
We settle for less in life because we are afraid that if we don't settle for less, we will end up with nothing, and this situates us in a life of ‘just enough’ living! There IS enough to go around! Life is abundant! We do not have to settle for less or compromise, or control others and ‘steal’ their ‘energies.’ We don't have to feel desperate or take less than we desire, because we can create our own life, loves and treasures. Believing in lack is a fearful belief. Buying things only on sale, using money-off coupons, shopping only at discount stores, being stingy,---all reinforces our belief in lack (and also therefore life energies' feed-back response of support of our belief to help us continue to only get ‘just enough’ money to buy the cheaper stuff:---what we put our focused attention on grows stronger), and it can keep us at a lesser economic level (remember, what we focus our emotion-backed thoughts, attention, feelings, attitude, behavior and actions upon comes back to us).
When consciously and actively giving out persistent generous acceptance and appreciation for everything--all of life, we receive and savor our deserved (birthright) abundance. And always observing, noticing and focusing our positive expressive appreciative attention on whenever any amount of positive things/people/information come into our life is a huge way to let the ‘energies’ know we like what is coming to us, so we’ll keep that positive flow coming to us! It's that simple, and it works. 'Practice makes perfect.'
When we consciously choose to create our own joy and happiness we are empowered by this self-created-self-worth, and then our fears go away, as we know we are conscious Creative Beings, and we've learned how to consciously choose and create our own happy and safe life. And abundance (grace, beauty, fun, sustenance and support of all different kinds) automatically flows into our life, and thus our creation begins to effectively work for us as easy-occurring efficiency, serendipity and positive synchronicities! That’s how creation works! ‘God (the God Within us) helps those who help themselves.’ The ‘universe’ conspires to fulfill our desires!
We’re also consciously creating our own self worth, taking up where our parents left off. We can release a lot of deep fear, anger and ‘hate’ (which is always really fear-without-full-information/broader perspective), by creating our true self-confidence/self-worth and high self-esteem through simply substituting conscious appreciative, heartfelt ‘choosing-creativity’ and what that brings into our life. We are not helpless, even if we’re paralyzed/limbless/blind/deaf/near death etc. (We can even sincerely say aloud, "I choose to release with my blessings all my fears, anger, hate, blame, inferiority feelings, guilt, shame and struggling right here, right now," and deep breathe this release deeply for awhile, from time to time until we believe it, know it and feel it is accomplished. This is the creative breath. Why hold on to the unserving old ‘baggage’ of these limitations?)
Again, we create all the time with our repetitious positive or undesirable strong thoughts, strong feelings, strong emotions, strong words, strong beliefs and convictions, strong desires, fears, focus, attention, reactions, actions or non-actions (inertia kills!), intent, behavior, attitudes—‘vibes,’ etc., and with genuine, authentic unconditional love-compassion (= allowing, accepting and honoring all). Let's choose! We cannot be in fear/warrior-survival-mode and love at the same time. Let's choose. There is no such thing as hate: it is really always fear, which is simply a lack of full information and full knowledge and understanding about how people/things really work (and others, too, are in much fear and posing as if they are not). We cannot be in a struggling control-power-sensation survival-mode and growth at the same time. As Creators (and we’re now waking up to this ‘Who-We-Really-Are’ Creator-Being), we can give ourself permission to choose. It is when we consciously focus on our heartfelt desires and passions in a positive way, rather than on the negative ‘don't wants,’ that brings in abundance. It works by shifting into positivity and maintaining it, and consciously choosing, which we employ using these techniques.
And somewhere along this way, we learn and feel true, complete self-forgiveness (= self-love-total-self-acceptance) and complete forgiveness and total acceptance of all others and all things and events....(true love), because our joyful, happy, open hearts become so filled with the compassion of total allowing, acceptance and honoring of all (self, people, things, circumstances, conditions, events and occurrences) {called true, unconditional Love}, and because we know this is a (somewhat difficult) learning-world of free will and free choice experiences. It’s good to always keep this fact in mind!
In this challenging type of world, everyone, like us, has the same right to make their own choices (even not making choices is a choice), even if the only choice made is to buck the 'system' and take the consequences,---or even choose to kill or die (because this is a free-choice, free-will human learning/creating experimental-experiential discovery, adventure game-world where there are no mistakes, as there are no wrong choices; nothing is an accident, and everything is in Perfection)! We expect our choices to be honored and respected, and so we honor and respect all others' choices. A challenge, perhaps. But we've removed ourself from human drama and trauma in this conscious choosing way, and continuously maintain creating our personal joy-filled and SAFE life. We can truly only 'control' our own life. Again: we can truly only ‘control’ (=MANIFEST,---by choosing-creating) our own life.
This was a world of learning lessons through enjoying life and through human drama experiences, the ‘school of hard knocks’ with which we need not allow ourselves to become overwhelmed, but as human consciousness is now awakening to these facts, this ‘game’ is over and we are now beginning to create anew/differently! We don’t have to choose to take everything so seriously! We can lighten up! Allow the world to take care of itself! We can ‘mind our own business,’ as we take care of ourself and our personal world! This is our only responsibility: not the controlling of others.
Sometimes things can seem pretty rough when the majority of humanity has given over their responsibility of owning their own hearts, minds, bodies and spirit, and allowed others to do their own thinking and ‘doing’ for them and make all the decisions and rules of the ‘game of life’ (doing so from perhaps the scary fear of having to be accountable for ones' own thoughts, behavior, feelings, heart and actions). But we forgive and accept all as being appropriate for all our lessons, as a gift to ourself (and to others, of course),---as it stunts our growth (and others' growth) by harboring hard-hearted feelings, judgments or ill-will. Closed-hearted feelings. And we can begin right now, with ourself, to take responsibility--through our choices--for our own gracious, open-hearted life and happy consequences! We don't have to wait any longer to enjoy life fully! It's really pretty simple if we practice our heartfelt desired choices, and with some ‘giving-outness.’ No one is broken or in need of fixing,---perhaps just at a different experiential ‘level’ of contracted or expanded consciousness!
"For as long as we were not in contact with our hearts, rules were an appropriate expression of a society seeking a state of civilization" (from "No Rules" book by Story Waters). However, rules, laws, religious dogmas, regulations, authority systems and enforcements, commands, judgments, etc., have never been greater than in today’s ‘civilized’ world. Neither has rebellion against all these been greater! Because they are simply not working,---because we were not choosing to proactively come from our loving, nurturing, caring hearts, instead. If we’re not in our hearts, we’re in our minds, and therefore are unbalanced.
We are all here to learn and live out lessons of managing our physical, mental, emotional, heart/spirit CREATIVE ‘energies,’ find and live our desire-passion(s) and live joyously.
Eventually we get so proficient at creating our joy that it automatically spills over into our attitude and behavior toward all people most of the time: we are able to be in our joy-mode most of the time, radiating, and others around us notice and, possibly, incidentally, get swept up in the genuine/authentic good feelings going on that maybe, just maybe, it will ‘make their day’ and be able to create constant joy and harmony in all our relationships: the brief ones at the grocery store, bank, post office, etc., or the long-term ones--spouses, mates, children, parents, lovers, relatives, friends, neighbors, co-workers, doctors, dentists, teachers, barbers, beauticians (even ‘enemies’), etc. WE can be the mature ones to ‘set the mood’ (be the standard/example) of positivity because of our joy, and not be a (powerful) (negative?) reactor to other people, circumstances or events. Our 'buttons' won't get pushed, as no one else any longer has any power or control over how we feel! We feel joyous! We've disconnected from all the ‘feedings’ of human drama by consciously choosing to substitute feelings of continuous enthusiastic appreciation and acceptance, and by our own other myriad creative choosings. FEELING AND ONCE AGAIN BEING SOVEREIGN/MASTERFUL!
With this technique, we create joyous passion, direction and purpose to our life, rather than just passively enduring it. And we're also incidentally adding positivity to the Greater Creation (not our goal,---our ‘goal’ is consciously creating our own joyous life simply by self-choosing it). If we choose to use these ‘higher’ (more expansional appreciations/self-choosings) ‘vibrating’ quality refined values, we greatly contribute to a quicker manifestation time of our true desires, because the higher ‘vibrating’ our desire and choice is, the more it matches the New higher ‘vibration’/frequency of balance, harmony and love Creation that is now coming back onto our planet and into our hearts, during these tumultuous, extensive profoundly significant years of consciousness expansion and evolution.
Sometimes I really raise myself into a real ‘high’ energetic joy mode using this technique, it's so effective (what we put our focused attention on grows stronger)! And I go around smiling a lot of the time for no reason,---even when there is no one around (studies have shown that using the smile muscles actually literally uplifts ones' mood),---this is my gift to myself and to whatever (invisible?) consciousness-stream is around (consciousness is everywhere). Also, trying to remember to smile a lot helps me be conscious, and be in the now present moment (the only place true living takes place), and not on ‘automatic pilot,’---acting and reacting in the old glum or frustrated/intolerant/resistant/irritated/impatient mode, or living in the (worrisome?) past or (scary?) future. Again, there is only NOW.
With an open heart, we can relax, knowing our future will bring only goodness and abundance because of our choice to switch over (shift/change) to the conscious appreciative ‘giving-outness’ way of life, and into self-choosing our own desired ways of living and being, which carries us through unfailingly. I even put up a big sign in our family room (where I mostly am when home) that simply said, SMILE, and left it there for awhile to help me remember and get used to smiling a lot and being consciously aware, and staying in the now moment. (Although it's kinda hard to smile while I'm whistling, humming or singing a lot! Or even yodeling with a John Denver tune!)
I'm a lot happier these days. In my life since I started doing this pretty regularly, so far, it seems wherever I go people are very extra helpful and extra nice to me,---with people frequently going out of their way to be extra helpful, kind and gracious! And of course, I'm genuinely getting that way now more easily, myself. I've had several healings, and important events and people come into my life (creative synchronous abundance and efficiency). (I even always get the small gift of great up-front parking spaces wherever I want them, which is all the time!) And a lot of other great ‘happenings,’---like the right useful information at the right time, or the right person at the right time,---and life really seems to be flowing much smoother and easier for me, and my relationships are much happier and richer. AND I AM SO TOTALLY SAFE! Abundance! Synchronicities! CREATION.
These happiness techniques also help us to dip back into our perhaps forgotten frolicsome sense of playfulness and giddy carefree fun; excitement with its mirth, merriment, gaiety and high spirits; delight; laughter and giggles and glee, and peak experiences, which are all very highly/abundantly sustaining (sustenance). It only takes an opened heart, and a smile. “We act as though comfort and luxury were the chief requirements of life when all that we need to make us really happy is something to be enthusiastic about." -Charles Kingsley.
We can become self-empowered by creating our own continuous state of happiness by practicing conscious appreciation and own (take responsibility for) our own choices. When more people are happy and feel safe, and simply by example share it, others are affected in a positive way. We can each, one by one, help balance the world by practicing these techniques (and not through control). This will take off like wildfire! So the world might choose to “make love, not war." We just need to make up our minds as to whether we want to live, and have joy and happiness (by continuously consciously choosing them). We are very effective Creators! We just need to acknowledge it, embrace it and make it our own creations,---instead of someone else's (controllers?). Follow the ‘leader,’ or follow our own newly opened heart? Our creativity is natural and nothing to be feared. Joy, Enthusiasm, Happiness and High Self Worth will not step up to greet us without our awakened, conscious choices of positive focus, attention and heartfelt expressive practice and specifically making choices of our own for ourself. Perhaps an occasional re-read of this would be an inspiring boost.
It's (past) time for all of humanity to wake up and behave as if the God in all--ALL--life mattered. It's our very thoughts, feelings, attitudes and behavior that is a way to be as God. Choosing to be joyful, happy, safe and at peace is one way. We ARE Creators--one way or another (consciously; or unconsciously--on ‘automatic;’ and positively or negatively). Let's be consciously creative and choose happiness and joy! And enjoy ourself and our journey!
We do this for ourself and not to be in unauthentic people-pleaser-to-feel-safe-and-be-liked-by-as-many-people-as-we-can unempowered victimhood mode.
My "Manifesting Abundance" pages are where I tell of some rather remarkable, unique and specific creations I made while I was also learning how to create in a different (but still heart-felt) way, through the use of somatic [body senses] imagination. It's really fun and awesome, and can be easily learned by most everyone. It opens us up to unfolding into our expanded NATIVE multidimensional selves! (Evolvement!) This, and my other pages, are a progressive series of gradual but continuous ‘openings’ to help further awaken, expand and unfold/unwrap our conscious awareness for even more fabulous creating and joyous living!
Personal conscious creation through our own choices of our heartfelt desires creates great high self worth/self esteem and confidence, feelings of complete safety, abundance and happiness, and can erase fear.
Manifesting Abundance, 2000-2009
(This gets more awesome about half way through this chapter!)
We'd lived in our home in west-central-coast Florida for 14 years with our direct, backyard center oak tree totally covered--on our viewing side--with large, variegated-leaf tropical vines, and on the sides and back side of the tree were always smaller, dark green, plain-leaf vines, all those years.
But then in the year 2000, something happened, where, when I sat at our window table for breakfast and lunch every day that overlooks the backyard (and oak tree): I began (action) at these two mealtimes, looking at and appreciating the smaller-leaf vines on the sides (and back) of the tree and ignoring the variegated large-leaf front vines (because I was tired of looking at the large-leaf vines, as they were also on some of our other oak trees). I kept silently or out loud telling the smaller-leaf vines I really enjoyed looking at them and appreciated them trying to come around the sides of the tree toward our viewing side, and welcoming and thanking them (I didn't know or think that they were, but I'd learned that everything is conscious,---rocks, a grain of sand, a cell, molecule, atom, blade of grass, or that 'dust bunny' under the bed!), simply addressing them with some appreciation. Since I didn't really know at that time exactly what I was doing, I had absolutely no intent, agenda or expectations (no controlling thoughts, and this not being in my mind turned out to be a key component). Just expressing OUT LOUD (action!) HEARTFELT appreciating, welcoming, and thankful thoughts with generosity of spirit. Nurturing. 'Playing' with energies. I continued this briefly 4–5 days weekly for a few months.